Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. – Genesis 2:19-20
Adam named his wife Eve, because she would become the mother of all the living. – Genesis 3:20
Have you noticed that we are still shaping our lives with names? For example, I am called daughter, sister, granddaughter, niece, Constance, Pumpkin, Spaghetti-head, sis, cousin, and Val by my family. But those are only a small part defining who I am. What if I were to add things like friend, scholar, student, listener, babysitter, roommate, confidant, singer, musician, artist, Christian…? Do you begin to see the importance of a name? I am not one or two of these, but all. They shape who I am and as I grow and my life changes I will acquire even more names like doctor, co-worker, employee, wife, mother, aunt, grandmother, sister-in-law…. Each name shows a different facet of who I am and who I am to become, but they all must be looked at together to see me.
But just like all these names define who I am, my names for other people define who they are. I think that one of the greatest gifts that God has given us is the ability to shape with words and names. Why are we so flippant with our gifts? Are we blinded to affects of the names we place on people?
The tongue is also a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and in itself set fire by hell. All kinds of animals are being tamed and have been tamed by man, but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. – James 4:12
We have a choice to heap blessings or curses on people with a single name. Names like son, daughter, or friend can bring joy, acceptance, thanksgiving, and love. And names like liar, betrayer, or fool bring condemnation, hate, and disregard.
Be careful what you say in anger or out of hurt because a name goes a very long way; it can build up or destroy. Which will you choose?